Don’t let success slip away
We all know success takes hard work and perseverance, and if you’re still with us in this WOMB program then you were doing both…
But there’s another factor that we often overlook: mental and emotional strength.
To develop mental and emotional strength, you have to be willing to take a hard look at how you handle your life (both personal and professional) so you can discover what you do to sabotage your success so you can let it go.
There are many ways entrepreneurs use to sabotage themselves, here is just a short list to wake you up…
“I will do it later” is often the equivalent to “I will never do it”.
Perfectionism is not a quest for the best but a path of self-abuse by the harshest voice in your head that tells you you will never be good enough.
- Fear of Failure
Failure is not an obstacle, but a stepping stone to success. The more you fail, the higher your chance of reaching success if you learn from it and do not give up.
- Lack of Purpose
Every day you wake up, you need to know exactly why you are getting up.
You need to have a purpose and plan for your life.
Distraction is a constant temptation, waiting just a few steps or clicks away.
If you want to succeed you must starve your distractions and feed your focus.
Whenever you doubt how far you can go, remember how far you have come…
Everyone wants to be rich, but they don’t want to put in the effort.
To be successful, you must be prepared to invest time, effort, and even money.
The world is continuously changing, if you refuse to learn, you will be outdated.
You need to learn, update and re-invent yourself constantly.
Envy is the art of counting another’s blessings instead of your own. The more you can focus on what you have, the happier and more successful you can become.
Comparing yourself to others is a waste of time and energy, because… no one else is like you. Compare yourself only to who you were before and where you want to be.
Your life, your success, your achievements are what you make of yourself.
Blame is just a lazy way of making sense of failures and mistakes.
“Oops” comes and goes but “if only…” does lasting damage. Life is too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. To succeed you must take chances and be bold.
A quick reminder
To stay in the program, we expect you to participate fully in the program for the coming two weeks
No stories. No excuses.
There are 2 more assignment weeks
You’ll have to do them BOTH. FULLY!
There is one LAST Hot Seat session:
- December 8 – at 8pm
Make sure you are present.
Make sure you are asking a question.
There is one LAST bonus workshop:
- Level Up My Business – December 22 – at 8pm
You do NOT have to join this workshop… it’s OPTIONAL.
Assuming you’re committed to complete the program till the end…
Let’s start with your MINDSET…
Are you your own worst enemy?
No one wants to self-sabotage…
Yet most of us will sabotage ourselves at some point in our lives.
Consider the following examples:
- You want to get up early to exercise, but you sleep in instead;
- You swear you will never watch another Netflix series again, but you find yourself binging when you are stressed or lonely;
- You plan to eat healthier, but you order a pizza after a busy day;
- You want to grow your business, but you can’t get yourself to do marketing or sales;
- You promise yourself to work on your business, yet you don’t complete all the WOMB assignments as presented…
Recognizing your self-sabotaging patterns and triggers is the first step in overcoming them.
Set your GOAL for this week…
Here’s a great goal for you:
I am going to overcome my self-sabotaging patterns.
How’s that for a 5-day challenge?
Choose the STRATEGY you will use…
Here is the 5-step process you could follow in order to achieve that goal:
- Identify and understand the pattern
Understand where this pattern appears and what lies behind it;
- Identify the triggers
Become aware of your conscious and unconscious triggers;
- Consider the cost
What will you lose, or not gain if you continue acting this way;
- Clarify your values and goals
You are more likely to commit to value-driven action than goals based on sabotaging pattern;
- Do the “right” thing
Commit to an empowering action plan when the triggers are pushed next time.
PLAN your actions in your agenda…
Your next step is to physically plan this process in your agenda.
Remember – the whole purpose of the Working ON Your Business (WOMB) program is to get you in the habit of investing EVERY DAY 10-15 minutes working ON your business…
So, my suggestion, do NOT do all the exercises in one batch – but stick to the “schedule” I recommend… It will build the right habit, that would serve you for the rest of your business life.
Plan to invest 10-15 minutes EVERY DAY in the coming 5 days to follow the process above.
Now it’s time to IMPLEMENT…
Take 10-15 minutes, right now, and…
- Day 1 – Make a list of all your self-sabotaging patterns that you’re aware of (use the list on the top of this page for inspiration, but be aware that this is not a full list).
Post your list of patterns in the comment box.
- Day 2 – For each one of your self-sabotaging patterns you identified yesterday – identify its trigger (or triggers).
For example, perfectionism might be triggered by the need for approval or fear of rejection.
Procrastination might be triggered when the task is boring, meaningless, difficult or unclear.
Fear of failure might be triggered by a fear of experiencing shame or embarrassment…
Post your list of patterns + triggers in the comment box.
- Day 3 – For each one of your self-sabotaging patterns you identified before – identify the cost (or costs) you paid for it in the past.
For example, perfectionism could lead to anxiety, depression and inaction.
Procrastination could lead to stress, regret, missed opportunities and not achieving your goals.
Fear of failure could cause panic attacks, not even starting a project, feeling of shame…
Post your list of patterns + cost(s) in the comment box.
- Day 4 – For each one of your self-sabotaging patterns you identified before – clarify the values and goal (or goals) you’re going to go for.
For example, you could replace perfectionism with excellence and your goal could be to get a feedback rate of 9 and up.
You could set completion as an important value in order to fight procrastination and set a deadline to complete every project.
You could choose to make as many mistakes as fast as possible in order to conquer your fear of failure. Set yourself a goal to journal (or post a blog post) about the lesson(s) you learn from each failure…
Post your patterns list + values & goals in the comment box.
- Day 5 – Come up with a strategic plan how you will respond next time that one of triggers you identified will be pushed.
For example, next time you feel you must make your new blog post or YouTube video perfect – give yourself a clear, short deadline – and tell your brain, “OK… we have xx minutes to make it the best we can… perfection is for losers…”
Or start giving yourself rewards for every task you wanted to postpone – but didn’t.
Share your plan and commitments in the comment box.
My commitment to you…
- I’m looking forward to read your process and ideas below;
- I will be there for you in the Wednesday Q&A to support you with any question, challenge or setback you encounter;
- I’m looking forward to celebrate your progress and results on Friday.
Live fully, stay awesome,